For survivors of childhood sexual trauma, looking to the future can lead to high levels of anxiety. An important part of healing and reclaiming hope is to be able to plan a positive future for yourself. Part of Faith (the 5th strategy to finding healing) is being able to look toward the future with confidence.
One way to do that is through positive declarations. Positive declarations are sentences that you say to yourself to remind you of the positive future you have ahead of yourself. Here are five ways to come up with your own positive declarations:
1. Start with a list.
Make a list of positive things you want to see happen in your life. Be as vague or specific as you want, just write down the first things that come to mind.
2. Choose one to represent each aspect of your life.
Think of categories like Work, Family, Personal, Physical, Spiritual, etc. Find the most important aspects of your life and come up with one sentence from your list for each category. Remember to keep the declarations in the present tense, as if you’ve already accomplished them.
3. Write your positive declarations down.
Put your positive declarations somewhere you’ll see them every day.
4. Say them to yourself.
It may feel a little awkward at first, but say the declarations out loud with conviction. You’ll be surprised how empowering they can be.
5. Keep them current.
If one of your declarations is “I exercise for 30 minutes every day because my body deserves it” and you’ve made that a consistent habit, then replace it with a new one that expands on that.
Here are a few examples of positive declarations to get you started:
- I love myself and I am amazing.
- I am good at my job and am paid what I am worth.
- I am a great mom and my children are fortunate to have me.
- I have the strength to do the right thing.
- I am grateful for this day and the many possibilities it affords.
- I am a powerful and resourceful woman.
- I am attracting positive and healthy people into my life.
- I view challenges as opportunities to increase my wisdom and strength.
- I can manage triggers in a healthy way.
- I behave in ways that promote my health every day.
If you practice your positive declarations consistently, along with viewing your vision board and your future vision statement, you’ll be sending a consistent positive message to the limbic system in your brain (the part that drives behavior). You’ll be amazed at the results you see when you practice a little faith!