Mindfulness is the ability to focus on empowering thoughts and feelings while choosing to coexist with unproductive thoughts and feelings.
Mindfulness comes from the realization that you have the power of choice in spite of the trauma you’ve experienced. When negative thoughts come into your awareness, the conscious part of your brain can do something about it. You can’t control all of the thoughts that come into your mind, but you can control the way you react to those thoughts. This strategy isn’t meant to minimize what you’ve been through. You can’t change the past, but you can learn to manage it. Through mindfulness, you can develop habits of thinking that will help you manage your responses to your past on an ongoing basis.