November 11, 2016

This is Your Choice

I am not afraid of storms for I am learning how to sail my ship.

-Louisa May Alcott-

You’ve tried before to take steps toward healing. For whatever reason, you still feel stuck in your past trauma. You may feel distraught or discouraged. Maybe because you’ve been unable to find healing in the past, you’re worried you can’t heal anymore and are afraid to reach for it again. No matter how many times you’ve tried before, we encourage you to try again. Don’t give up on the idea of healing.

At The Younique Foundation, we firmly believe that you can heal! We know that you can. It’s important for you to realize that you have to find the right therapy for you – there is no one size fits all in trauma recovery.

One of the things that keeps people from believing they can heal and from healing itself is a misconception of what healing is.  They may think that healing means they are no longer reminded of their trauma or that they never experience triggers.  In other words, it is a misconception that storms will stop coming. Over time you’ll gain the tools to handle them, though. Healing looks different for everyone, of course, so you’ll need to decide what it means to you. Healing comes as you learn how to manage your trauma, not the absence of the trauma itself.  It is liberating and freeing to experience a trigger and successfully navigate through it.  Just as it notes in the quote above, we feel hope and peace as we learn how to sail our ship through the storms that come.

You have to choose. You have to choose every day to keep moving down the path of your healing journey. Even on days when you feel like you’re not making progress, know that you are! Just by making the choice every day toward healing you’re making progress. Some days it will be easier than others, but, as with anything, practice will help. You may become so good at handling your triggers that you don’t even realize you’re doing it – it will just become a part of who you are.

Think of your healing like planting a seed. You nurture it, you water it, you give it sunshine. Even though you can’t see the results every day, over time you see that your healing seed has grown roots, reaches urgently for the sun, and will blossom. Keep moving in the right direction, keep consciously choosing it, and you can heal.