I Choose To Be Somebody
Have you ever seen a problem affecting the world and thought, “somebody needs to do something about this?” We believe every person has the power to be a force for change. Each of us can look at a problem and think,
Somebody needs to do something… but that somebody could be me.
The Younique Foundation works hard to help women find healing after surviving childhood sexual abuse, but it’s not something we can do alone. To help every survivor, it takes many individuals standing up to say, “I choose to be somebody!” One in four women is sexually abused before the age of 18. Take a look at our resources below and choose to say, “Somebody does need to do something about this…and that somebody is me!” You can choose today to be the somebody that will stand up and support survivors of childhood sexual abuse.
Read the stories of people
who chose to be that somebody
I first became interested in The Younique Foundation after attending a presentation given by the Executive Director, Chris Yadon. I became aware that there were so many who had become quiet victims of childhood sexual abuse. I realized how immobilizing and destructive that experience can be. I had witnessed this in my own extended family many years ago. I felt a special need to help others who had been victims. After the workshop, I asked Mr. Yadon if there were any opportunities to volunteer. He said there many things to do to help. It was easy to fill out forms and get a clearance check to do the work.
As a grandmother and great-grandmother to many, I felt I could help educate my kids and grandkids on ways to teach their children about sexual abuse. The Younique Foundation’s program of how to teach the use of proper nouns to describe body parts and establish physical boundaries was so impressive. I was likewise impressed at how they encourage parents to start early to build that trust relationship with their child so they feel comfortable talking about sex from an early age with their parents rather than going to friends and getting wrong information.
For the last year, I have been cutting and tying fleece quilts for adult women who were abused as children and then attended The Haven Retreat with other survivors. They receive these on the first day, and the blankets are very comforting as the survivors do something very difficult in sharing their past with others. The blankets are theirs to keep. The women come from all over the world. I have also been writing encouraging cards that are given to the women on the last day of the retreat to strengthen them as they return to their normal lives.
This has been a very rewarding year for me. I am grateful for the opportunity to serve as a volunteer with The Younique Foundation.
I am a mother and a daughter of survivors. When I first found The Younique Foundation (TYF) and started spreading awareness, my mother and my daughter were silent about their past, so I made it my mission to be their voice! I post often on social media about preventing sexual abuse and bring it up in conversations frequently because we need more awareness so we can bring an end to sexual abuse. My mother finally decided she was going to no longer sit in silence, and she now shares her story often. My mother has also applied for The Haven Retreat because she has realized that she never really gave herself the chance to heal. My daughter is still young and uncomfortable talking about her past, so for her I will continue to be a part of this mission and be her voice and fight to make as many people aware as humanly possible until there is no more 1 in 4! It kills me that I was unaware and was unable to protect the two most important women in my life, so I will do whatever I can to help defend the innocent so that future girls will not have to suffer like they did.
I chose to be somebody after I found healing through attending The Haven Retreat. I used all the tools and resources available to me and suddenly felt compelled to help other survivors. Before I knew it, we had a group set up in our local community in Ireland to help survivors begin to find healing. I’m so passionate and dedicated to helping in any way I can. I will continue to use voice to inspire other survivors to reclaim hope.
I was honored to be able to attend The Haven Retreat in June of 2018. I always wondered why I struggled in so many ways with loving myself and trusting others. I was being sexually abused from age 2 or 3 until about 14. It’s been very hard to talk about it, admit it happened, or even understand the best way to deal with the situation as it was so long ago.
I want to volunteer and eventually work for The Younique Foundation. I follow and read everything they put out. I’ve grown to love them SO much and it’s my honest desire be like them and be able to help and serve others who have struggles.
It’s amazing how one sentence, one story, or one comment can make a world of difference. A couple of years ago I was at a family reunion and was talking to my aunt about the statistic that 1 in 4 girls are sexually abused before the age of 18. I had been blown away by the statistic and had been sharing posts from The Younique Foundation on Facebook.
She looked into my eyes and said “I am part of that statistic” and then quickly looked away. I was floored – my aunt, my dear sweet aunt who I love and cherish, had gone through something incredibly difficult, something I could never imagine the personal impact of. She chose that moment to stand tall, have courage, and share her story. That one sentence changed me in ways I could have never imagined.
I began sharing more. Posting more. Standing up for survivors in conversations and doing all I could think of to show my aunt I would be there for her always.
Fast forward two years. Yet another family reunion, but with a different story. My aunt started another conversation about healing from sexual abuse. I was able to share resources from The Younique Foundation with her, I could talk about how I used things like Art Journaling or Yoga in my personal life to help process my own stresses and trauma.
And then, more and more women in my family started piping in. All of a sudden we had created a little community of support, talking about how we could all support each other. I chose to be somebody.
I chose to stand up and support survivors and had no idea where that would lead me. But I’m grateful every day for the beautiful strength that I’m seeing in my family because I chose to be somebody.