For survivors of child sexual trauma, there can be a lot of shame and negative self-talk. That voice in your head can be pretty mean at times. An important part of healing and reclaiming hope is to be able to change that negative voice into your head into a more loving and positive voice.

One way to do that is through positive affirmations. Positive affirmations are sentences that you say to yourself to remind you of how amazing you are, how far you’ve come, and how capable you are to continue on your healing journey. Here are five ways to come up with our own positive affirmations:

01
START WITH A LIST
Make a list of positive things you want to see happen in your life. Be as vague or specific as you want, just write down the first things that come to mind.
02
CHOOSE ONE TO REPRESENT EACH ASPECT OF YOUR LIFE
Think of categories like Work, Family, Personal, Physical, Spiritual, etc. Find the most important aspects of your life and come up with one sentence from your list for each category.
03
WRITE THEM DOWN
Put them someplace where you'll see them and read them every day. The bathroom mirror may be a good place.
04
SAY THEM OUT LOUD
It may feel a little awkward at first but say them out loud with conviction. You’ll be surprised how empowering they can be.
05
KEEP THEM UP-TO-DATE
If one of yours is “I exercise for 30 minutes every day because my body deserves it” and you’ve made that a consistent habit, then replace it with a new one that expands on that.

Here are a few examples of positive declarations to get you started:

  • I love myself and I am amazing.

  • I am good at my job and am paid what I am worth.

  • I am a great mom and my children are fortunate to have me.

  • I have the strength to do the right thing.

  • I am grateful for this day and the many possibilities it affords.

  • I am a powerful and resourceful woman.

  • I am attracting positive and healthy people into my life.

  • I view challenges as opportunities to increase my wisdom and strength.

  • I can manage triggers in a healthy way.

  • I behave in ways that promote my health every day.

If you practice your positive declarations consistently, along with viewing your vision board and your future vision statement, you’ll be sending a consistent positive message to the limbic system in your brain (the part that drives behavior). You’ll be amazed at the results you see when you practice a little more positivity.

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